“Sometimes people do what they think is for the best, and their intentions are misinterpreted.” – Theresa Breslin
Have you ever gotten into an argument with someone and you could not believe that they were standing strong to their side? This is because we can only see the world through our eyes, and unfortunately, there is no way to swap your lenses and see the world through theirs.
Our past determines how we look at our present and the future. We have all experienced our own trauma, thrills, lessons, etc. that have made us who we are today. We all have our own unique thoughts and opinions whether they go spoken or unspoken is up to us.
Even if you take two twin babies and try your hardest to make them have the exact same upbringing there is no way to guarantee that they’ll turn out the same. They will form different lenses, we often forget this, we expect that everyone is experiencing life through the same lens as us.
Since we all have these lovely lenses that are fogging up our view of the actual situation we tend to view the other person as being wrong and us as being correct. Of course, there is no way for a person to go through their entire life and explain why their decision makes sense to them in a single argument or conversation.
Typically what happens is that both sides think that they are correct, because they are. Both are correct through their lens. So the next time you get in an argument keep in mind that in the end, you are practically fighting over nothing. Unless it is a life or death situation most arguments that people get in are over petty and meaningless things.