“A person of character seeks true happiness in living a life of purpose and meaning, placing a higher value on significance than success.” -Micheal Josephson
This may or may not be considered to be an age old questions but I’m going to ask it anyways, where do you attach your significance to? It is a big deal and a question that we typically do not ask ourselves.
Is it to our stuff, our status, our surroundings? Or is it to our honest self worth, the kind that not everyone can see, that is hidden deep beneath us? Is that too deep though, I guess we are all different, where does yours lie?
If you are the kind of person who’s outward status feeds their inward significance so much so that it barely inward anymore and you feel like a dartboard. If someone hits a bulls-eye it is the best day ever, but if you are veering a little to the right or left you are crushed.
If you have got thick skin from a broken heart you may feel like a shield. You will not let anything or anyone hurt you ever again, no matter how good or bad it may be it is not going to come in here and disrupt the peace. You take hits daily but have grown numb to the pain that used to haunt you.
If you have truly reached a peak and your significance is in you, no one can get to it and hurt it, and you can still allow things in to your life. There is an almost perfect balance, this is where the magic happens. You may wear it in your things, or on your skin but below is where it can truly grow and thrive.
The process of learning where to place your significance is one of the hardest things you can do. Both it and you need to be taken care of. Not like a baby or the elderly needs someone watching after than 24/7, but like how a plant trying to grow out of their natural habitat may need a little extra love to grow.
Give yourself that little bit extra love, and watch yourself grow. Place your significance within yourself, feel the strength that comes from that moment.